Until I work some things out, I’m no longer ‘doing’ weddings. I’m not attending engagement parties, or bucks nights, wedding ceremonies or receptions.
I’m not sure exactly what I think. Here’s an outline of some of the stuff that’s been stewing for at least a year or two:
- I can’t make sense of love (or even ‘life’ through the eyes of a human). But then, there probably aren’t many people who claim to understand love.
- I don’t agree with the current legal constraints regarding heterosexual marriage.
- I take offence to some of the religious doctrine preached at weddings I’ve been to.
- I feel bad when I think about ‘wedding things’ (trying to understand feelings is an unreasonable -and most probably a silly- thing to do).
Well that’s the stuff I can verbalise. That last point makes it difficult for me to have any sort of productive thoughts relating to the matter.
There you go; many hours of painful rumination summarised with five minutes of typing. If anyone could recommend some modern philosophy dealing with the subject, I’d be most appreciative.
It’s clearly a personal issue, something to do with how I feel about weddings, not some sort of moral decree stating that people getting married are doing it wrong. This announcement may be untimely, and I hope it doesn’t foster any hard feelings. It doesn’t result from any specific experience and it is not targeted at any specific group of people.
The iPhone 3G’s ability to geotag photos out of the box was a major draw card for me. Unfortunately, there’s something awry with the way geotagged photos are being handled in OS X. At the moment whether you import photos through iPhoto, Preview or using Image Capture, at some point the GPS reference may get set to North/West. This is a problem if you live outside of the North-Western hemisphere.
Regardless of whether Apple fixes this, you’re still going to have to retag all of your old photos. So a few weeks ago I wrote a script to automate the process.
This applescript can either be set as the Automatic Task in the ImageCapture utility or you can drag files onto the script for processing. However, first you’ll need to install Phil Harvey’s exiftool: http://www.sno.phy.queensu.ca/~phil/exiftool/
Then copy and paste the code below into Script Editor, customise for your location if you’re not in the south & east hemisphere and save as an application (eg. File Format: Application). I’ve #commented the code to help you find where to tweak the North/South/East/West variables.
(* This script can either be set as the Automatic Task in the ImageCapture utility or you can drag files onto the script for processing. FIRST: the script checks each file to see if it's been geotagged (otherwise screenshots and saved images that are in your camera roll end up getting tagged with the coordinates 0,0) SECOND: it changes the reference data on any images that hold an unwanted compass point (eg. North) to the desired reference points (eg. South & East) *) on open theFiles repeat with aFile in theFiles #this next bit searches for files that are inappropriately tagged GPSLatitudeRef = N (eg. North) #however, depending on where you are, you may want to change it to search for files tagged West (eg. Ref = W) do shell script "if (exiftool -v " & quoted form of POSIX path of aFile & " | grep \"GPSLatitudeRef = N\"); #Change the =S and =E to the desired compass refernces. (South & East are good for Oceania) then exiftool -overwrite_original_in_place -gpslatituderef=S -gpslongituderef=E " & quoted form of POSIX path of aFile & " fi" end repeat end open (* As far as I know this works, however I take no responsibility for any loss/gain of data which results from the use of these 1's and 0's. Please share if you see anyway that this script could be improved. *)
Are you familiar with, quantum entanglement? It’s a theory that holds that photons come in pairs that are separated by space and time, but always in instantaneous, inexplicable communication. Einstein calls it a “spooky action at a distance.” I find the notion fairly romantic.
I mean, we affect each other, even when we don’t mean to, even when we don’t want to, we’re connected. Even when we try to be unaffected.
The universe is accelerating at such a rate that someday eventually it will all fly apart and all matter will just drift alone and become disconnected. How sad that would be if human beings were to behave in a similar fashion? After considerable inner debate, I find that the risks of human contact are more than compensated for by the rewards.
Teasing is an important part of our family. Sometimes we tease a lot and it can easily get out of hand. It was always clear when it’d gone too far, at which point dad would refer to the following:
Guidelines for Teasing
1. Teasing can cut the tension between people and make everyone feel accepted. But it must be done correctly and at the right time.
2. Some things are too important and too personal to tease about. Never tease to hurt or make someone cry. Only tease to lighten things up.
3. If the person you tease becomes angry or resentful, back off and drop it.
4. Don’t tease forever. If it’s funny or cute, tease about it once or twice. But don’t keep picking and picking and picking.
Teasing can be fun and teasing can be terrible. We don’t need to give up teasing, but we do need to be careful how we use it. Practice doing it right, and teasing will give you some good times together.
Dr Nelson repeatedly used the term “forcibly removed generations” during the press conference and expressed his hope that the term “stolen” not be used in the apology.”I do appreciate that many Aboriginal people who were removed from their families do strongly support the description stolen, it has pejorative connotations particularly for several generations of very good men and women from churches and other organisations who believed they were doing the right thing in removing these children,” he said.
in darkness of night
over silhouette plains
i watch as the moths
orbit round the dim flames
as light dwindles
they remember those martyred
then in a swift vortex
their god has departed
In the bright of the day
I look up to the sky
I’ve done 23 laps of this flame.
The light’s as consistent
as the way people argue
the attraction cannot be explained
matty – 4/8/07
Why questions are difficult to answer. At times they seem ridiculous or impossible, like a riddle without an answer. However if you want a fighting chance of finding the answer, first you need to cast aside any worry that you won’t reach the solution. Worrying about not finding the answer doesn’t achieve anything, it just prevents you from finding the answer. It’s “as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.”
Only after you shift your focus away from the goal will you be able to reflect and focus, and have any hope of finding resolution.
Easier said than done.
Dad: …. “I was thinking of going for a walk”
Sparky: *twitches head, stays on bed*
Dad: …. “would you like to go for a walk?”
Sparky: *twitches head*
Dad: …. “what about going for a walk”
Sparky: *less interested*
Dad: …. “how about a perambulation”
the penny drops
Sparky: *leaps up and starts barking, full of enthusiasm*