Until I work some things out, I’m no longer ‘doing’ weddings. I’m not attending engagement parties, or bucks nights, wedding ceremonies or receptions.
I’m not sure exactly what I think. Here’s an outline of some of the stuff that’s been stewing for at least a year or two:
- I can’t make sense of love (or even ‘life’ through the eyes of a human). But then, there probably aren’t many people who claim to understand love.
- I don’t agree with the current legal constraints regarding heterosexual marriage.
- I take offence to some of the religious doctrine preached at weddings I’ve been to.
- I feel bad when I think about ‘wedding things’ (trying to understand feelings is an unreasonable -and most probably a silly- thing to do).
Well that’s the stuff I can verbalise. That last point makes it difficult for me to have any sort of productive thoughts relating to the matter.
There you go; many hours of painful rumination summarised with five minutes of typing. If anyone could recommend some modern philosophy dealing with the subject, I’d be most appreciative.
It’s clearly a personal issue, something to do with how I feel about weddings, not some sort of moral decree stating that people getting married are doing it wrong. This announcement may be untimely, and I hope it doesn’t foster any hard feelings. It doesn’t result from any specific experience and it is not targeted at any specific group of people.